Every Herd needs a Shepherd
The Herdfather
"For a man to conquer the heart of a woman,
he first must conquer himself."
Shortly after I turned 40, I became a single Dad. My girls were 6 & 7. While the decision to become a single dad wasn’t mine, it was the monumental shift in my life that I needed.
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I struggled with the understanding of what it meant to “be a man”. Most important to me was being a positive and effective role model for my daughters. As a father, I wasn't showing up the best I could. I took a long, hard look at myself.
Past relationships were mediocre at best. I lacked accountability in my life. I lacked self-confidence. I wasn't brave. I wasn't in control of my ego and my pride. I made myself out to be better than I was. My shortcomings were keeping me from reaching my full potential. I was a nice guy but needed to become a good man.
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Meeting Shannon was like a breath of fresh air. She was a force in every sense of the word. Successful. Confident. Sexy. We both joke our initial assumption at first glance was "there's no way". My dismissal was due more to my fear of being inadequate. How could this woman want to be my partner? I was as afraid of a relationship working as I was of it not. I began to open up to her about who I was and who I wanted to become.
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Shannon isn’t a “wait at the finish line for you” type. She's full-on “ride or die”. She saw my potential early. She encouraged me deeper into my mission and kept me on the path. If I ever let up, she was there to keep me in line. Shannon knew what she wanted and deserved in a partner. She wasn’t going to short-change herself.
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My life began to fall in order. I held my head high. I thought more of myself. I spoke better of myself. I invested in myself. I began to take charge of my life. I showed integrity in all I did.
I became accountable for my actions, and I learned to forgive myself. I checked my ego and pride, and I became a better father. I was becoming brave. I was becoming a good man. I was becoming a King.
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Having Shannon in my life doesn't complete me, it compliments me. As a husband. As a father. As a man. She didn't change me. She supported me in my desire to become a better man. My story is far from complete. I'm only getting started. I have more to learn and room to grow. To be an inspiration for other men, wherever they may be on their journey, is my goal.
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My vision is to create a brotherhood of Kings building their kingdoms. A community of men who want to be the absolute best partners, fathers, and leaders in all they do.
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The world needs more GOOD MEN.
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The world needs more Kings.
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Ride or die Brothers. I got your six.
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Mike a.k.a. The Herdfather mike@ourblendedherd.com